Only 3.5 months left until our wedding!!!
Sorry for the exclamation marks but every time I think about it, it freaks me out. Time is passing so fast, I can’t believe it.
In the past 2 months we have been so busy with the preparations for the wedding, as there is so much stuff to do. I’ll walk you through it. With everything we ordered I try to put the link in.
We finally decided on a photographer for the wedding (woohooo!!). This was a massive item on my to-do list and it frustrated me beyond reason. I think, without exaggerating, I have contacted over 30 photographers, asking for pricing and availability. Some did not respond at all, others said our wedding wasn’t within their region (HELLO, this is the Netherlands, you can go from west to east in less than 2 hours and from south to north in 3h. If you live anywhere near the center, everything is in your region!) and most of the others had ridiculous prices (either they are really, really, really good and won a lot of prices or they were just asking too much money for what they had to offer). Please take into account I already made a selection before asking availability and pricing based on the type of photos on their respective websites.
You get it, it was a horrible task. But in the end I managed to find a few that were priced within reason and had a style we both liked.
One was a bit more traditional and would give us the standard wedding photos. He would shoot photos when the moment would be right. He would not be orchestrating a lot of shots.
The other one I found had a great portfolio but that also means he knows how to get a good shot and probably will direct you a bit more to get the best shot possible.
After meeting both, we felt we had to choose between the invisible photographer and OK photos or the visible one with great photos afterwards.
As they both came out around the same price, we decided to go for the 2nd one. We want photos we love!
So our photographer will be Marcel Fischer, from Fischer Fotografie.
After having spent an entire birthday party in November avoiding questions about our wedding, dodging the questions about our budget and the date and the location and the dress and who all would be invited and whether they could stay the whole day or only for the party, we decided to send out the invitations a.s.a.p.
We had them nearly finished end of November (we designed them ourselves) and we already had a complete guestlist, so why not just send them out?
In December in the Netherlands we get a discount on stamps (to get more people to send a card to all their family and friends to wish them happy holidays and a wonderful, great, fantastic, superb, nice, healthy, etc. New Year.) so we decided to get our invitations out in December. I know, it is super early, but we also knew we didn’t want to sit around the dinner table on the 25th with all my family with all of their questions and go through such a day again.
We went to a printing company nearby (Prima Print)and spend a wonderful afternoon there. At least, I had a lot of fun. We had our design with us on an USB stick so we could get some proof printing done on different types of paper.
We explained what we were looking for (off-white with texture) and the owner of the store was willing to help us. Het gave us 3 proof prints that were very different. One was super white and glossy (we didn’t like that). One was not glossy with some texture but it was nearly yellow, also didn’t like that. And one was super white but not glossy, and also no texture. Also didn’t like that one. So M. thought he would have to compromise and after spending a full hour(!!!) doubting what to do, he went back to this man, explaining the issue(s). This man saw it coming and he came back with another type of paper. Linen pressing it was. M. still wanted a proof print but I already knew. I asked the owner: WHY didn’t you give him this in the first place?! It would have saved us all an hour!!
And we both laughed.
The next day we sent our files, the different backs and the front and I got to collect the final product within 3 days. He didn’t mention it but I have the feeling we got a major discount. So I had the invitations, I got all of the required envelopes from our local bookstore and I had the stamps. Ready to rock and roll right? Nope!
We still had to round the corners of the cards, so that is 4 corners per card and we had 60 cards. Great… luckily, we bought the right tool, but still, a lot of work. We had to find a way to get the addresses printed on the right spot on the envelopes.
In the end, after a long day of work, we were able to post them before the deadline to get them delivered before Christmas! It turned out during our Christmas dinner with my family, everyone besides one couple had received their invites before Christmas. We are going to hear about them not receiving one until we are grey and old, that is for sure.
Another important item to arrange are our wedding rings.
We visited 3 jewelers and each time we got a better idea of what we were looking for. By the time we got to the 4th, we knew what we wanted and were just looking to get a good deal. We put a 600€ down payment and because I choose to add 4 sapphires to my ring, which come in multiple categories of blue, I get to go back in February to pick the exact stones I want, which I think is pretty cool!
In the end M. choose to go for a simple yellow golden ring, a classic, timeless, model. It suits his skin tone and overall style. I, on the other hand, looked horrible with a yellow golden ring. My engagement ring is white gold with a diamond, so I wanted something to compliment that. Even though I will not be wearing both rings on the same finger, they will be on the same hand, so they should match. My wedding ring will be small, to make my fingers look long, with 7 stones, alternating sapphires and diamonds. This way, a diamond will be in the center, to match my engagement ring. I am so glad we found the perfect rings. Even though at first, we were going for matching rings. But with our different skin tones, one or the other would just look odd. Our rings come from Le Mariage.
Will you be my witness?
We finally decided on our witnesses!!! Gosh that was a long process.
Here in the Netherlands we get to pick a minimum of 2 and a maximum of 4 people to be our witnesses.
It is considered a real honor to be selected for this. We don’t usually do the entire bridesmaids & groomsman thing you see in the US a lot. We pick witnesses.
We wanted to have 2 each, but then I had to choose between 2 of my best friends and my brother.
M. has 1 super best friend (the type you don’t see for a year but when you are together it feels like you see eachother every day), which he doesn’t see enough, one good friend, which everyone considers to be his best friend, but I don’t (he doesn’t tell him everything, whilst his other friend he can talk about really everything), and he was thinking about asking his youngest sister (ai.. is that going to cause envy with his other sister?).
So we both had 2 friends and 1 family member.
We decided to select one of each. M. picked his real best friend (whoohooo!) and his youngest sister.
I selected my female best friend and my brother. So we would both have a female and a male. It’s all in the details…
The day before Christmas we got the chance to meet up with M.’s best friend, who came over from the UK to visit his family. We used this opportunity to ask him in person. He was so amazed and surprised. He really didn’t see it coming. Mission accomplished!
On the first day of Christmas (we have 2 days here, the 25th and 26th), we had a large family dinner, with 19 people in total, at my parent’s place. At the end of the evening a managed to pull my brother away for 2 minutes and asked him if he wanted to be my witness. He was like: don’t you need a girl to do that?!
But he was thinking about all the bridesmaids you see on tv. Nope, you don’t need to wear a dress for this task (too bad though, would have been fun as he is about 2m tall, can you imagine???). After clearing that confusion, he was very honored.
In the first week of January I met with my best friend for a high tea and asked her there. She was expecting it, but still stared to blush, so sweet! The week after, M. went out to dinner with his youngest sister and asked the question. She also said yes.
So we are complete! we have our 4 witnesses!
Something I didn’t order when getting my wedding dress is a veil. During the last fitting I did try 2, but as they were 100€ each, I found it too expensive. But M. has mentioned he really liked the idea of me with a veil so I started the hunt on Marktplaats to find a second hand one. Those should be priced a lot nicer. I found the exact type I tried on in the wedding dress shop, but it turned out to have a massive hole in it. Such delicate soft Tule, I was not going to be able to fix that! Too bad, but I had to let the deal pass.
After having scouted the internet for weeks, I decided to start looking abroad and I found a wonderful wedding veil in the US and including shipping and taxes it cost me only 50€! I was sold! M. loved it as well, so we just ordered it a few days before Christmas and it already arrived on the 24th! It is not soft Tule but that doesn’t matter, I will be wearing it low on the back of my head anyway, so it doesn’t have to follow every curve of my face. I love it, I will link to it here.
This blog getting a bit long so I’ll split it in two and post the next bit soon.